Weddings are typically very special events. It starts with the bride and groom expressing their love and then it hits you at the reception. The best man and maid of honor make speeches, everybody is dressed for the occasion, and everyone is ready to spend the evening laughing and celebrating. Don’t be the one that changes with a bad speech.
Keep It Short
The wedding day isn’t about you so keep it short. A wedding toast or speech should not last more than 5 minutes. Word Counter says that the average person speaks about 125-150 words per minute—meaning 5 minutes of talking would entail about 625-750 words. Plus, you’ll pack a bigger punch if you have to cut the speech down to its bare bones. Then everyone can get on with the night as everyone hits the dance floor to celebrate.
Get Out Ahead
You want to start writing your speech at least two or three months ahead of time. Handwrite the speech to give it a personal touch, and leave it on your desk in plain sight. This will inspire you to chip away at the message every so often. Eventually, you’ll polish it down to something you can be proud of.
Grab Attention
You only have one chance to make a first impression. The same is true when it comes to your speech. Make sure to lead with a memorable and attention-grabbing line to put a hush over the crowd. They’ll be putty in your hands for the duration of your speech, and it will allow you to make an impactful statement. Afterwards, WeddingWire suggests to introduce yourself to the crowd, as while you should be addressing the couple, you want everyone to be able to follow along and that includes knowing who you are.
Don’t Ridicule The Bride
Everybody knows that the wedding day is all about the bride. Don’t ruin her special day with any ridicule in your speech even if it is lighthearted. As always, it’s comfortable and safe to make fun of the guy. The groom is fair game for any embarrassing stories or good-natured ribbing. Though, The Knot warns against using inside jokes and anecdotes that could make other guests feel left out. Try using a story that many people haven’t heard, but that doesn’t involve too many complicated twists or drama, despite how funny it might be.
Write It Down And Practice
Again, write your speech with a pen and paper to give it a personal feel. Re-write your speech once it’s done to practice a bit and to make it more legible. Then get up in front of a mirror and practice your speech. Don’t overlook this critical advice. Practicing your speech will help you get over any jitters on the wedding day.
Making a toast or a speech at a wedding is a privilege that can quickly go wrong. Take these steps to avoid a speech that falls flat to deliver your special message on a special day.
